Romance in the time of Covid
Erin has been ready for love… for a while.
For the past year she’s been compulsively “working” to find her match.
It’s been a rollercoaster.
She’s tried to make Mr. Right show up, and after tons of dating and putting herself out there, nothing happens.
So she’s had to let it go, because it’s too overwhelming to bother with.
And the cycle repeats.
When I spoke with Erin a couple of months ago, she was more frustrated than ever.
“How am I going to meet someone in a pandemic?”
Even when she wasn’t actively on the dating scene, she was thinking about it nonstop.
And as we know, where our attention goes, the energy flows.
She was fixated on the lack of a partner… what she didn’t have. So she was just creating more lack. More angst. More disappointment.
So guess what I counseled Erin to do?
Forget about it!
Well, not so much “forget,” but I guided her to focus on something else.
So Erin started to align with what felt good. She was in the middle of coach training for her new business, so she poured her energy into her professional development.
She stopped worrying nonstop about how she was going to manifest her life partner.
She only logged onto her dating apps when she felt totally inspired.
And low and behold, I checked in with Erin a few weeks ago, and she’s been seeing a fantastic guy for a month!
In fact, one of their first hang-outs was so comfortable that they ended up doing errands together!
Erin is definitely approaching it differently this time around.
She’s staying present.
She’s not trying to plan her entire future with this guy.
She’s enjoying this new gift.
Can you see why “letting go” wasn’t working for Erin?
Because when you actually release your hold on something, you free up your energy. You’re able to appreciate what’s working, what’s good, and what’s here now.
And that’s where the magic can really happen.
So how do you know when it’s time to refocus your attention on something else?
Picture the thing you desire most right now…
How does it feel?
Then it’s time to stop thinking about it. Choose something else to focus on.
Only when you truly FEEL good about your dream will it start to take shape.